Specialist Bereavement and General Counselling.
Clinical Supervision
I’m the person you want to work with:
I get that you might need to talk about all sorts of stuff and that feelings are often not straightforward or predictable. I know that talking to a counsellor can feel weird and you might wonder whether just talking can really change anything. These are things I have learned from over 12,500 hours of clinical experience.
Over the years I have worked with clients who have had some really awful things happen in their lives. It might be a devastating bereavement (including pet death, these can be tough, check out my media section for more on this) a relationship that has hurt you in ways you can barely describe or it might be that you know something is wrong and doesn't feel right and you need some help to find out what that is and what you can do about it. All these feelings matter and whatever your pain I believe there is a way forward.
I am Senior Accredited and Registered with the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). I am a qualified Counselling Supervisor and Trainer. I am a certified Online and Telephone Counsellor. I headed up bereavement services in the voluntary sector for many years before setting up my own Counselling Practise. I am passionate about working in a properly trauma informed way with my clients. I also offer supervision or consultation to therapists, health care and allied professionals. I have regular monthly supervision and I am registered with the Information Commissioner's Office.
I have written a piece on bereavement for the BACP website, which you can read here.
Making the decision to see a counsellor is a big step to take - but it can be a positive one. Please read on to find out more about how I could help you.
• It can help you make sense of confusing and unpredictable feelings.
• It will help you accept your feelings and manage your emotions.
• You can learn how to recognise and change patterns of behaviour that are not serving you
• It can help you understand and reconcile yourself to complicated, unhappy and difficult relationships both in life and death.
• It will give a space where who and how you are will be completely accepted.
What's more is it can even be funny and enjoyable.... OK not all the time, but sometimes!
If you are bereaved it’s usually a good idea to give yourself six months to deal with the initial shock before you think about counselling. Often your best instinct will tell you if you are ready and this is something we can discuss together if it's helpful.
The same rule of thumb can apply to other traumatic and upsetting life events - generally a bit of distance can help you get the best from your counselling. Beware of practitioners who offer a quick fix and are willing to take your money too soon...
You will be able to find a private hour once a week for us to work together via video link up.
How much will it cost? My rates are £60 per hour.
I began my counselling career working with clients dealing with addictive behaviours connected to alcohol, substance abuse and problem gambling. I learned how painful experiences such as bereavement, childhood sexual abuse and abusive adult relationships can lead us into unhelpful patterns that we might need help to change. My experience is that people usually recognise what they are doing isn’t helping but don’t know how to begin to make changes.
Clients I work with are seeking support for:
• Bereavement
• Recovery from abusive relationships and/or historic sexual abuse
• Understanding and addressing repeating patterns resulting from trauma
• Addressing anger
• Habit forming behaviours that do not serve you well
• Difficult family dynamics
• Depression, low mood and anxiety
Here are six things I have learned over the years that will maximise what you are able to achieve whilst in therapy:
-Waiting for other people to tell you what to do or fix your problems
-Needing to present yourself as strong and struggling to show your vulnerability perhaps because of fear of being hurt/rejected etc.
Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions about my counselling or supervision services.
The best way to get in touch is by email in the first instance please - use the form here. After that we can talk on the phone or have a trial meeting on Zoom to see if we are a good fit to work together. Voice mail messages can be left on 07837096618.
Media & Publications
Spotify podcast - Dynamics in supervision
The use of silence in therapy
In this TherapistsConnect Podcast I talk about my relationship with silence and my experience as a grief counsellor. Listen here (starts around 06.15)
Bereavement - What therapy can help with
How do you cope with the death of a loved one? How can you deal with the overwhelming feelings of loss and grief? Read my article here.
TherapistsConnect
Dr Peter Blundell interviews Sara Mathews about her life and work as a bereavement counsellor in the UK. Listen here.
Grief Awareness Week
Here is an article I contributed to in Hello magazine written for Grief Awareness Week: https://www.hellomagazine.com/healthandbeauty/health-and-fitness/508614/grief-awareness-week-what-therapists-want-you-to-know/
Pet Bereavement
Read my advice on dealing with pet bereavement here: https://theethicalist.com/6-expert-tips-to-cope-with-pet-grief/
Dealing with a Cancer diagnosis
Read mine and other therapists' thoughts here in this article published on the BACP website: King Charles: Therapists reveal emotional impact of a new cancer diagnosis
My thoughts on talking to the bereaved
Why are we so uncomfortable talking about grief?: https://www.hellomagazine.com/healthandbeauty/health-and-fitness/550109/uncomfortable-talking-about-grief-what-to-do/
Social Media and Grief
How social media is changing the way we grieve: 8 tips for sharing grief online and how to support others: https://www.bacp.co.uk/news/news-from-bacp/2024/2-december-how-social-media-is-changing-the-way-we-grieve-8-tips-for-sharing-grief-online-and-how-to-support-others/
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